“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
I couldn’t agree with Emerson more! Can you differ?
Extended and frantic work agendas, not having enough sleep, coworkers you hate, an intimidating boss (no, not me!) – These and other ‘hundred’ issues could lead to one getting angry at work.
The consequence (just to state a few) – we lose our coolness, bang doors, scream at colleagues, grimace, lash out at our boss, and wind up stating matters we may repent soon after.
It seizes years to raise an authority, and just seconds to ruin it. In any case, you shouldn’t break your self-image. Supersede harmful feelings with composure and handle tricky circumstances with elegance.
Here are the ten tips on how to curb your anger at workplace, keep your thoughts under control, and keep a flawless temperament.
1. Spot concerns
Be prepared to the sort of perspectives that can place you on the burning seat right away. As much as possible, bypass from scenarios that cause a hasty and unlikable response, particularly when you are at work or just prior to you arrive to the workplace.
Say for instance, instead of blaming the heavy traffic you endured on the way to the office, why not start from home a bit earlier. That’ll help to cool your head down. Keep in mind that time related problems are mostly a voluntary concern. You can do better.
2. Preparation is the key
Expecting and outlining an encouraging feedback will aid calm your rage before the circumstance gets to you.
As a case in point, if you don’t prefer queries disrupting your presentation, contrive how you will deal with stoppages. Together, devise a plan ‘B’ for the likelihood of a technical malfunction holding up your presentations. If it’s an performance evaluation meeting you are showing up, have some nice deeds all set to make up for any downbeat criticism, so you don’t react in irritation.
The upshot: Be well prepared and stay composed.
3. Clear doubts before responding
At times, we misinterpret the other person and respond recklessly. It’s in our nature! Raise several questions before hopping to conclusions.
If it’s necessary, stand in their shoes for a moment and realize their situation. This guarantees you reckon the remark and offers your coworker or customer the chance to shed light on any miscommunication.
4. Don’t make a scene
In the age of collaboration, a heavy-headed approach will get you marked as the attention-seeker in the workplace. Determine to be more helpful. Don’t be adamant on rubbish issues. It will not score you any points.
If your initiative refused by the superior or even mocked, don’t talk on his/her back. Instead, communicate with them directly and value his/her view before losing your mind.
If you are coping with vicious fellow workers who keep beating you down, smile and conduct yourself in an open manner. You don’t need to payback. After all, these sorts of folks don’t deserve anything more.
5. Don’t communicate when hot
Hold back before penning a severe expressive e-mail or making a phone call. Never contempt others, although you’re right. The fuming mail you sent few months ago may draw a startling appearance at the performance review conference. I bet you don’t want that to happen.
Hold that hot-temper until the next day and rethink the strategy. When it’s not possible to tame the beast, ask someone close to you to analyze any communication you believe may be interpreted as cynical, arrogant or impolite.
6. Be set to apologize
If you wind up exploding in a gathering, disapprove of a coworker’s effort, or badly timed remarks that make you feel sorry, how can you pull through? Make an apology straight away to the directed person and to everybody around.
Don’t put forward a long explanation about work stress or the mix-up. Just state, “I shouldn’t have behaved that way and I am sorry.” This will demonstrate that you are a pro and will reveal positively on your personality.
7. Money making woes
Join the party. If you think you’re the only one not making enough money, think again. The whole world aligns with you in this regard. It’s time to change your thoughts then.
Working hard isn’t enough, you’ve to work smart too. I can’t stress the importance of working smart although it depends on your work style/environment. Think outside the box (something fresh), do awesome things, persuade people around you, master how to talk/dictate terms, and the money will follow.
8. Coworker problems
Anger with a colleague is generally noticeable to others in your office. One way to aid reduce the pressure is to engage other folks in it. By counting others in significant professional stuffs, the course of the exchanges will be guided/softened by their involvement.
Carry on your chats short and snappy with the awkward coworker. Never avoid them. Confront it: You work together, and constant contact at several stages is necessary. What you can do is try to end those talks (positively) in order that you can come back or move to other activities without further ado. You can track up with gracious and pro notes; stepping out of a talk expresses a contrast meaning.
At times, the problem may be on your side. H/she thinks in the same line of attack about you. See, it occurs to everyone. Seek a light relief. Make peace with them. Bury your pride and accept the reality. It won’t execute you.
9. Bullying boss
Some bosses misuse their authority just because they can. Bullying boss in your workplace can be a nightmare, especially if you’re very sensitive. Don’t startle and blow your top. Don’t bestow the boss the control to label you. Don’t take their rubbish to heart.
Bullying boss fly high on your fear and limitation. Things like pretending docile, blenching, continuous excuses et al can’t help your situation, but naturally add fuel to the bullies’ fire. Don’t fall out. Don’t shoot up the face-off. Don’t let yourself get trapped in the moment. Tolerate and cease the bump into as swiftly as you can. Meanwhile, display unruffled body language even when the situation is red-hot.
10. Have fun
What’s work without a dash of fun? Big organizations like Google demonstrate the fact that fun is an indispensable part of their employee policies. In a broad sense, you can enhance creativity by unwrapping people (whether it’s the boss, coworkers or customers) to sense of humor or little play. It always works well.
Personally, your work doesn’t have to be tedious, stressful and cripple. You can keep it exciting with proper wittiness and altering your work chores. Use your short breaks from work well. For instance, get a book that occupies you and read it, solve a puzzle, take a power nap (20 minutes), do simple breathing exercises, play ‘Angry Birds’ on your mobile/computer, or write down thoughts and be productive, whatever thing that you relish in fact.
If you consider this post illustrates controversial workplace morals lightly, think over. You may be fuddling simple issues. This is reality! All the tips mentioned here can work for you if you’re up to it.
Ultimately, if your anger issues going out of hand (in ‘hulk’ proportions), switching to a new career may be the only option. Don’t lose hope. Believe in yourself and show confident attitude. Carry on your hunt for a keen, more rewarding job at a remarkable company. Rest assured that you’ll find a fitting one.
Do you get angry at your workplace frequently? What are the triggers?
Post your showdowns in the comments below. Besides, enlighten us how you curb your anger and cope with tricky circumstances.
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